Day 12 - How to Fight Fear

• At one level, fear is healthy. 'Fear' is an emotion induced by a perceived threat. It is a natural human emotion, which is God-given. It is a basic survival mechanism. It protects us from danger.
• 'Phobia,' however, is unhealthy fear. It is disproportionate to the danger posed. It is 'False, Evidence Appearing Real.' It is overestimating the danger and underestimating my ability to cope. Common phobias include, what is now called, FOMO - the fear of missing out, the fear of not being special.
• The fear of God is a kind of healthy fear. It is an understanding of who God is in relation to us. It means respect, reverence, awe, honor, adoration and worship; and it could even be translated as love for God. It leads to a healthy respect of God and is the antidote to all other fears and phobias we experience in life. Fear God and you need not fear anything else or anyone else.
• It is no coincidence that as the fear of God has decreased in our society, all the other fears have increased.

Proverbs 1:20-33
1. No fear of harm
Fear of the Lord is a choice that you make. If you are wise, you will choose to fear the Lord' (v.29) and listen to him.
Jesus is 'the wisdom of God' (1 Corinthians 1:24)
Choose to fear God, listen to him and repent when he corrects you. If you do, God will reveal to you the hidden treasures of wisdom in his words and you will be 'in good hands' and can be free from the fear of harm

Lord, I choose to fear you - to live a life in reverence and awe of your power, majesty and holiness. Help me to live life fearing you alone.

Matthew 10:1-31
2. No fear of people
Do not be afraid about what to say. The Spirit of your Father will supply the words.
Do not be afraid of what others will do to you. Save your fear for God, who holds your entire life - body and soul - in his hands.
Do not be afraid of what will happen to you. God cares what happens to you even more than you do.

Lord, thank you that you tell me that I do not need to be afraid. Thank you that you value and love me so much. Help me to know your love, to trust in you and not to be afraid.

Genesis 25:1-26:35
3. No fear of death
'Do not be afraid, for I am with you' (v.24). Of God is with you, you need not be afraid of anyone or anything.

Lord, thank for your promise to be with me. Thank you that you tell me over and over again that if I fear you I do not need to be afraid of anything or anyone else.

Adds:
Genesis 26:34
It is so important to choose the right husband/wife and to pray for ourselves, our children and our friends that God would lead them to the right person.

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induce 1.설득하다, 유도하다 2. 유발.초래하다

• Nothing would induce me to take the job.
• a drug-induced coma

disproportionate (to sth) 균형이 안 맞는, 불균형의

• def. surprising or unreasonable in amount or size, compared with something else
• The area contains a disproportionate number of young middle-class families

catastrophize (신조어) 최악의 상황을 상상하다

• When Barry becomes worried, he tends to catastrophize about everything.

reverence 숭배

• a feeling of great respect for someone or something
• The poem conveys this deep reverence for nature.

antidote 해독제

• There is no known antidote to the poison.

personify [pər^|sɑ:nɪfaɪ] 1. ~을 전형적으로 보여주다 2. 의인화하다

• He is kindness personified. 그는 친절함의 화신이다
• The river was personified as a goddess. 그 강은 여신으로 의인화되었다

wayward 다루기/다스리기 힘든

• a wayward child 다루기 힘든 아이
• n. waywardness 자행: have one's own way

complacency [kəm^|pleɪsnsi] 현 상태에 만족함, 안주

• Despite signs of an improvement in the economy, there is no rom for complacency.
• complacency about ~에 대한 안주
• There is no time for complacency. 안주하고 있을 때가 아냐
• get complacent. 안주하게 되다

reveal 1. (비밀 등을) 드러내다, 폭로하다. 2. (보이지 않던 것을) 드러내 보이다

shrewd 1. 상황 판단이 빠른 2. 기민한, (판단이) 재빠른

• def. being able to understand and judge a situation quickly and to use this understanding to their own advantage.
• a shrewd businessman

caress [kə^|res] v.애무하다, 어루만지다 n.애무, 애정표시

• def. stroke gently
• His fingers caress the back of her neck. 

The Habbits of Happiness

1. Grow Healthy Relationships


5 LAWS OF HAPPINESS
1. Don't look for happiness. Create it!
2. Happiness isn't a goal.
3. My habits create my happiness
4. Happiness based on happenings is temporary. But happiness built on habits is long-lasting.
5. Happy habits are as addicting as bad habits.


To be happy:
1. Be grateful for the people in my life

• PHILIPPIANS 1:3 Every time I think of you, I give thanks to my God.
• The longer you know the people, you take them as granted and look at more bad sides
• Memories are choice
• HH: Remember the best & forget the rest!

2. Pray with joy for the people in my life

• PHILLIPIANS 1:4 I always pray for you, and I make my requests with a heart full of joy...
• Do you pray for him or just complain about him?
• Positive prayer is more effective than positive thinking
• HH: Quickest way to change a bad relationship to good: Start praying for them!
• Pray they:
• will grow in love
• will make wise choices
• will live with integrity
• will become like Jesus

3. Expect the best from people in my life

• make a habit to expect the best
• PHILLIPIANS 1:6 I am confident of this, that God who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus
• Paul believed in people. you don't lay down people but give them confidence in them.
• nobody is changing by nagging
• he gave people visions. you're gonna keep growing. He gave a picture of the future.  
• we tend to live up to the expectations of other people. when people expect the best of you, you tend to be better. We tend to become what we are believed by what the most important people in our life think about us.
• he is patient with people's progress. nobody is perfect.
• HH: Celebrate how far people have come, rather than judging how far they still have to go.
• God doesn't stop loving you until you become perfect
• Key to patient is love
• PHILLIPIANS 1:7 It is right for me to feel this way about all of you, since I have you in my heart.
• When people are not in my heart, they are in my nerves. If they are all in my heart, they are not in my nerve.

4. Love the people in my life like Jesus does

• PHILLIPIANS 1:8 God is my witness that I tell the truth when I say that my deep love for you all comes from the heart of Christ Jesus himself.
• easy to teach but hard to practice

3. Relaxing in God's Goodness

Southern California: laid back and easy going
Rather work than play
employment over enjoyment. don't know how to slow down, relax, rest
Job 20:18 they are unable to relax and enjoy anything they've worked for.
God smiles on you when you rest.


PSALM 23:1-2 "The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want. He make me to lie down in green pastures: he leads me beside the still waters.
These images represent: Rest & Refreshment
if you don't lay down, God will make you lay down
TO GIVE GOD MY BEST REQUIRES REST!
If you don't rest, you'll get stressed
The difference of being stressed and being blessed comes from rest


People don't relax because:
1. MISPLACED IDENTITY: BASING MY WORTH ON MY WORK

• If I achieve a lot, I must be worthy a lot, valuable, significance. your significance is not
• ECCLESIASTES 10:15 "Only someone too stupid to find his way home would wear himself out with work!"

2. MATERIALSIM: ALWAYS WANTING MORE THINGS

• PROVERBS 23:4-5 "Do not wear yourself out trying to get rich have the wisdom to show restraint.. " 
• sacrificing my health in over work for the first half of your life and sacrificing wealth in order to get health back for the second half of your life
• LUKE 12:15

3. ENVY: WANTING TO BE LIKE OTHERS

• ACCELSIATES 4:4a
• make sure you follow right model

4. VALUING ACHIEVEMENT OVER RELATIONSHIPS

• Value your career more than anything else
• ECEELIASTES 4:7-9 "..why am I always working to do more? And, why don't I let myself enjoy life? and 'who cares? who will get what I leave behind?' what a senseless and miserable way to live! You're better off having someone to enjoy and share the rewards of your work."
• learn how to love first

5. INSECURITY: WHEN I'M AFRAID I WON'T HAVE ENOUGH

• ECCLESIASTES 6:7 "We work to feed our appetites, but meanwhile our souls go hungry"
• PSALM 127:2

20-30MILLION DOLLAR MORE?


MATTHEW 11:28-30 "


How can you rest in God?
1. Remember my value to God

2. Enjoy what I already have

• ECCLESIATES 4:6
• at the very last moment, all you need is loving people, not about achievement. 
• ECCELSIATES 9:9 "Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love"
• resting is a part of trusting, way of blessing

3. Limit my work to six days a week

• EXODUS 23:12
• EXODUS 20:9-10a " the seventh day of a week to be a day of complete rest dedicated to me."
• Sabbath means: DAY OF REST
• 3 things you do in Sabbath: rest my body, recharge your emotions, refocus your spirits
• PROVERBS 14:30

4. Adjust my values

• MARK 6:36

5. eXchange my restlessness for God's peace

• MATTHEW 6:26-30
• maturity knows how to rest
• MATTHEW 11:28-30 "..watch how I do it. Learn the unforced grace of me.."

Day 11 - What is Success?

Success is a blessing from the Lord (vv.31,50)


Psalm 8:1-9
1. Praise God for the success of his creation
Human beings are the pinnacle of G od's creation - a masterpiece - made in his image

Lord, as I look at the vastness, beauty and success of your creation I can only praise and worship you: 'O Lord, our Lord, how majestic is your name in all the earth! (Psalm 8:9)


Matthew 9:14-38
2. Pursue success modelled on Jesus


Lord, there is so much need in our world yet it seems that the workers are few. I pray that you would raise up and send out more workers to go out into the harvest field and change the world.

Genesis 24:1-67
3. Pray for success in guidance


Lord, I pray that you would multiply this wonderful example of successful guidance in our community and in the church generally. May there be more and more examples of couples coming together and being able to say, 'This is from the Lord' (v.50)






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collision course 충돌 침로/노선, [비유] (의견 등의) 충돌이 예상되는 상황

• The car was on a collision course with the truck.
• The two politicians are on a collision course over raising taxes.

connotation [_|kɑ:nə^|teɪʃn] 함축(된 의미)

• The word 'professional' has connotations of skills and excellence.
• Red has a connotation of warmth.

wary of ~을 조심하는, 경계하는

• Be wary of strangers who offer you a ride.
• She was wary of getting involved with him.

pinnacle ~of something 정점, 절정

• the pinnacle of her career
• He never has quite reached that pinnacle 그는 정상에 도달해 본 적이 없다

dominion (over sb/sth) 지배,통치권

• Man has dominion over the natural world.
• Japan exercised dominion over Korea long time ago.

hocus-pocus [_|hoʊkəs^|poʊkəs] 진실을 호도하는 말/ 행동, 간교한 말장난

• What she says is just hocus-pocus, pure nonsense. 그녀의 말은 완전 사기고 허튼 소리야
• I don't believe in that hocus-pocus. 저는 그 속임수에 넘어가지 않아요

synagogue 유대교 회당

• They celebrated the Jewish new year at their synagogue.

usher 안내하다

• The secretary ushered me into his office

emulate [^|emjuleɪt] (흠모하는 대상을) 모방하다, 따라가다

• She hopes to emulate her sister's sporting achievement
• We need to emulate his passion for his study

harass (압력을 가하거나 불쾌한 말. 행동으로) 괴롭히다

• He has complained of being harassed by the police

menstrual 월경.생리의

• The average length of a woman's menstrual cycle is 28 days.

fringe 주변, 가장자자리

• the fringes of society 사회의 주변부
• the urban/rural fringe 도시/농촌 변두리

circumstantial 정황적인

• circumstantial evidence 정황 증거

Day 10 - Facing the Storms of Life

we would all face the storms of life (Matthew 6:25-27)
Bear Grylls






Psalm 7:10-17
1. Take up the shield of faith
David's shield is 'God Most High' (Psalm 7:10)
This is the best protection you could ever have against the attacks of the enemy.


Lord, thank you that I am able to say with the psalmist, 'My shield is God Most High.'


Matthew 8:23-9:13
2. Trust in Jesus the Savior
The natural response to the storms of life is doubt and fear. Jesus tells them that the response to storms should be trust ('You of little faith' v.26a) and that you should not be afraid ('why are you so afraid?' v.26a).
God's 'mercy' is his kindness and forgiveness towards people who do not deserve it. Receive and enjoy his mercy yourself and then be merciful to others.


Lord, thank you that in all the storms of life I can cry out, 'Lord, save us.' Help me to trust you in these times and not to be afraid.


Genesis 21:1-23:20
3. Thank God for his provision
During the waiting period the challenge is to keep on trusting God.
'My God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus' (Philippians 4:19)


Lord, thank you that you are a shield, a Savior and a provider. Help me to keep trusting in you and to not be afraid. Help me to keep you as the number one priority in my life.




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inflatable (공기나 가스로) 부풀리게 되어 있는

• an inflatable mattress/raft 공기 주입식 매트리스

v. inflate [ɪn^|fleɪt] 1. (공기나 가스로) 부풀리다/부풀다 2. (가격을.이) 올리다. 오르다

• Inflate your life jacket by pulling sharply on the cord.
• The principal effect of the demand for new houses was to inflate prices.

n. inflation 인플레이션, 통화 팽창, 물가 상승률


rigid 1. (흔히 못마땅함) 규칙. 방법/ 사람이 엄격한, 융퉁성 없는 2. (사물) 뻣뻣한, 잘 휘지 않는

• The curriculum was too narrow and too rigid 편협하고 융퉁성 없었었다
• There is a very rigid hierarchy in the company 엄격한 계급 제도

dinghy [^|dɪŋi;^|dɪŋgi] 소형보트

Conceive 1. (생각, 계획 등을) 마음속으로 하다, 상상하다 2. (아이를 )가지다/임신하다

• God is often conceived of as male.
• I cannot conceive what it must be like. 그게 어떤 모습이어야 하는지 나는 상상이 안 돼
• She is unable to conceive
• Their first child was conceived on their wedding night.

disillusionment 환멸

• def. the disappointment that you feel when you discover that something is not as god as you had expected or thought
• There is widespread disillusionment with the present government

liken ~에  비유하다, 비기다 (to)

• People liken this price increase of gas to a tax
• The writers often liken life to a trip

take up ~을 집어 올리다, ~을 태우다. ~을 보호하다
Pharisee 바리새인
crook (비격식) 사기꾼 v. (손가락이나 팔을) 구부리다

• That salesman is a real crook

riffraff  천한/하찮은 사람
coddle (흔히 못마땅함) 애지중지하다

• The lion does not coddle the weak. 약한 새끼를 키우지 않는다
• I don't want to coddle him 그의 응석을 다 받아주고 싶지 않아

provision 1. 공급, 제공 2. 대비, 준비 3. provisions (장거리 여정을 위한) 식량 4. (법률) 조항

• The government is responsible for the provision of health care.
• You should make provision for things going wrong.

 abomination 혐오, 가증스러운 것

• The institution of slavery is of course an abomination

bury [^|beri] 묻다

• He was buried in ABC Cemetery.

Growing A Love That Lasts

JEREMIAH 31:3b "I've never quit loving you and I never will!"
JOHN 15:12 "I command you to love each other in the same way that I love you."


You have to make a choice to stay longer.
Is it possible that love lasts an entire lifetime?
Love is tested by doubts, differences, disappointment, distances, delays, debts, demands on life
Love is a choice, not a feeling but it provides good feelings
It's a choice to love or stop loving
  Joy: a feeling of great happiness


Ever lasting love?
1 CORINTHIANS 13:7 "Love never stops being patient, never stops believing, never stops hoping, and never gives up"


Choice for lasting love?
1. Lasting love extends grace

• you gotta choose to be merciful, show grace
• 1 CORINTHIANS 13:7a
• When do you show grace?
• When their flaws and faults irritate me
• grace is essential because two imperfect person work together
• PROVERS 17:9 "Disregarding another person's faults preserves love."
• EPHESIANS 4:2 "Be humble, be loving, be gentle
• if you are critical on other's fault, you're not humble, loving (grace allowance)
• When their words or actions hurt me
• intentionally or unintentionally-careless because we're not paying attention to other people's life; grace listens; god gave you two ears and one mouth; first duty to love is always to listen
• JAMES 1:19 "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry"
• loving, unselfish choice
• PROVERBS 17:9 "Love forgets mistakes. Nagging about them parts the best of friends."
• PROVERBS 19:11b "When someone wrongs you, it is a great virtue to ignore it."
• When they sin
• 1 PETER 4:8 "Let your love for one another be intense, because love covers over a multitude of sins."
• COLOSSIANS 3:13 " Put up with each other.. (and) forgive as quickly and completely as the Lord forgave you!"
• a great marriage is a union of two great forgivers
• I must choose to extend grace over and over

2. Lasting love expresses faith

• trust causes blossom. love never stop believing. love is built on trust. love goes with trust.
• JUDGES 16:15a "How can you say, 'I love you,' when you don't trust me?"
• research on impact of trust on your behavior shows that genuinely trusting people consitently less galble, have a higher IQ, far better adjusted psychologically, live much happier life
• love believes, encourages 
• what your loved one might have accomplished in life if you believed in him more? what your husband could have done in life if you said i'm behind you. 'I'm scared to death but I believe God and believe you. Let's go. We limit people by our unbelief. that's unloving.
• ROMANS 14:19 "Let us be always seeking the ways that lead to peace and the ways in which we can support each other."
• Love never loses its faith. 
• People blossom when they are told I believe you.
• PSALM 62:8 "Trust God all the time. Tell him all your problems, because God is your protection!"
• I must choose to express faith in people everyday; you're showing love

3. Lasting love expects the best.

• always looks for the best.
• people tend to rise to the level of expectations. you change bad behavior by helping him see a picture of what they could become. eg. hey, I think you can be really great if you do this. don't tell how bad it is.
• If you want to be a great lover, treat people the way you want them to become
• 1 CORINTHANS 13:7
• you can do it! every time you encourage somebody you're feeding them.
• #1 killer in marriage is a neglect.
• 1 THE 
• I must choose to expect the best from somebody every day.

4. Lasting love endures the worst

• It is more rewarding to restore relationship than the run from it
• JOB 6:14
• Ask God to put the spirit of Jesus in you

How to last a relationship?
1. Listen with all your heart

• James 1:19
• You don't automatically listen. have a built in time
• Listening is to listen as the way they want to say

2. Forgive with all your heart

2. Letting God Meet My Needs

GOD IS THE SOURCE OF EVERYTHING I NEED TO LIVE
PSALM 23:1 “The Lord is my Shepherd, I will lack nothing!”
SHEPHERDS: FEEDS, LEADS & MEET NEEDS
PHILIPPIANS 4:19 “God will supply all you’ll ever need from His glorious resources in Christ Jesus.”

GOD DOESN’T WANT ME WORRYING ABOUT ANYTHING

Worrying is the most common sin in the planet
PHILIPPIANS 4:6a “Don’t worry about anything! Instead, pray about everything.”


* 5 reasons you shouldn’t worry about anything
1. WORRY IS UNREASONABLE.

• MATTHEW 6:25 “Do not worry about your life – what you’ll eat or drink, and don’t worry about your body, or what you’ll wear. Your life is far more important than clothes.”
• We worry about wrong things. Most of things are temporary things. You pick the wrong things to worry about.

2. WORRY IS UNNATURAL

• MATTHEW 6:26
• Worry is learned by watching others worried

3. WORRY IS UNHELPFUL

• MATTHEW 6:27 “Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to the life?”
• Worry cannot change anything. It makes you more miserable.
• PROVERBS 12:25a “Worry weighs us down.”

4. WORRY IS UNNECESSARY

• God has promised to take care of you.
• MATTHEW 6:30

5. WORRY IS UNBELEIF

• Worrying is doubting God. You act like unbeliever
• PHILIPPIANS 4:19
• MATTHEW 6:32a

HOW DO I TRUST GOD?
1. EVERYDAY ASK HIM TO BE MY SHEPHERD

• Do this every day. God will feed, lead and meet my needs
• JOHN 10:14-15
• PSALM 28:9

2. GIVE HIM FIRST PLACE IN EVERY AREA OF MY LIFE

• MATHEW 6:32-33 “Your Heavenly Father already know perfectly well what you need, and He will give you what you need if you give Him first place in your life and live as He wants you to.”
• anytime you worry, that's a warning that God's not your number 1. if you don't give God the first place, it's an indication you're worried, insecure. eg. money- no matter how much or little you have, you are worried

3. RELAX & GIVE HIM MY WORRIES IN PRAYER

Count your blessings. make a list of blessings/ worries and give God your worries. express your worries to God. don't suppress. .”
1 PETER 5:7
MATTEW 6:32
HURRY CREATES WORRY              
PHILIPPIANS 4:6-7
Peace in my mind comes because God is my shepherd. God will give what I need. Every time worry comes up, I don't hold it and say take it

4. TRUST HIM FOR ONE DAT AT A TIME

• MATTHEW 6:34 live your life one day at a time. if you worry about tmrw you miss today's blessings.
• Planning for tmrw is good but worrying is bad. Jesus highly recommends planning (book of proverbs)
• MATTHEW 6:34
• WHAT GOD GIVES TO ME, HE WANTS TO GIVE THROUGH ME
• ISAIAH 58:7-11 ***